A Letter to the Bride Planning Her Wedding Day

A Letter to the Bride Planning Her Wedding Day

Letter to the bride planning her wedding day from New Mexico and Colorado wedding photographer DBK Photography

My dear Bride,

You’re in the middle of planning your wedding day, and there are a few things I need to share with you.

I know your wedding day is supposed to be the best day of your life, and you want everything to be perfect, but I promise you it will still be the best day of your life, and everything will still be perfect, even if it’s not. The table runners don’t have to match the flowers perfectly for you to be able to enjoy the day with your new husband and family. As much as you might stress over the menu right now, years or months down the road you may not even remember what food was served. All that matters is that you enjoy it with those you love.

I know you’re stressed about guest lists and etiquette and which traditions to keep and which to toss out. You’re worried so-and-so will be offended by such-and-such, you’re worried about who to include in your wedding party, and you’re worried about people showing up who don’t RSVP. I don’t have any magical solutions to any of these worries, only the assurance that you are not the first to feel this way, and you won’t be the last, and those feelings will fade.

So here is my best advice:

Pick your best friends as your bridesmaids. Don’t worry about having too many or too few. Don’t worry so much about whether the two sides will match. Choose those people you can’t imagine not sharing this day with and don’t worry about the rest.

When you’re trying to figure out the menu and alcohol situation, it really doesn’t matter whether you do buffet or plated dinner, open bar or cash bar or no bar. It really doesn’t matter. So do what you want, and don’t worry what anyone else may or may not think.

If there are any wedding traditions that make you a bit nauseous, skip them. And don’t think twice about it.

The only things that really matter for your wedding day are that people have a good time—including and especially you—and you have a photographer who sees your story and shares your vision. I may be biased, but it’s really true—the photographs are what you will have left when the wedding is over, and they should tell the story of your big day in the way you want to remember.

Lastly, remember that this is all about starting life married to the one you chose. Remember to plan for the perfect marriage, not just the perfect wedding. Remember that, like with wedding planning and everything else, there will be irritants and pitfalls. You may not agree on everything. You may fight about things as simple as what movie to watch or how to load the dishwasher, or things much more complicated. But through it all, always remember that this is the partner you chose, this is the person who will always be there for you. And when you remember that, everything else comes a little easier.

Much love to you,

Delia

Bride's dress blows in the wind at summit of Keystone Colorado for Ski Tip Lodge wedding

 

For planning tips from this New Mexico and Colorado wedding photographer, check out these other posts:

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7 Things to Consider When Searching for Your Wedding Photographer

Best Colorado Mountain Wedding Venues

Questions You Should Be Asking Your Wedding Photographer Before Booking Them

Letter to the bride planning her wedding day from New Mexico and Colorado wedding photographer DBK Photography

My dear Bride,

You’re in the middle of planning your wedding day, and there are a few things I need to share with you.

I know your wedding day is supposed to be the best day of your life, and you want everything to be perfect, but I promise you it will still be the best day of your life, and everything will still be perfect, even if it’s not. The table runners don’t have to match the flowers perfectly for you to be able to enjoy the day with your new husband and family. As much as you might stress over the menu right now, years or months down the road you may not even remember what food was served. All that matters is that you enjoy it with those you love.

I know you’re stressed about guest lists and etiquette and which traditions to keep and which to toss out. You’re worried so-and-so will be offended by such-and-such, you’re worried about who to include in your wedding party, and you’re worried about people showing up who don’t RSVP. I don’t have any magical solutions to any of these worries, only the assurance that you are not the first to feel this way, and you won’t be the last, and those feelings will fade.

So here is my best advice:

Pick your best friends as your bridesmaids. Don’t worry about having too many or too few. Don’t worry so much about whether the two sides will match. Choose those people you can’t imagine not sharing this day with and don’t worry about the rest.

When you’re trying to figure out the menu and alcohol situation, it really doesn’t matter whether you do buffet or plated dinner, open bar or cash bar or no bar. It really doesn’t matter. So do what you want, and don’t worry what anyone else may or may not think.

If there are any wedding traditions that make you a bit nauseous, skip them. And don’t think twice about it.

The only things that really matter for your wedding day are that people have a good time—including and especially you—and you have a photographer who sees your story and shares your vision. I may be biased, but it’s really true—the photographs are what you will have left when the wedding is over, and they should tell the story of your big day in the way you want to remember.

Lastly, remember that this is all about starting life married to the one you chose. Remember to plan for the perfect marriage, not just the perfect wedding. Remember that, like with wedding planning and everything else, there will be irritants and pitfalls. You may not agree on everything. You may fight about things as simple as what movie to watch or how to load the dishwasher, or things much more complicated. But through it all, always remember that this is the partner you chose, this is the person who will always be there for you. And when you remember that, everything else comes a little easier.

Much love to you,

Delia

Bride's dress blows in the wind at summit of Keystone Colorado for Ski Tip Lodge wedding

 

For planning tips from this New Mexico and Colorado wedding photographer, check out these other posts:

Tips for Planning Your Wedding Day Timeline

7 Things to Consider When Searching for Your Wedding Photographer

Best Colorado Mountain Wedding Venues

Questions You Should Be Asking Your Wedding Photographer Before Booking Them

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